Where Do People With HIV Find Love?

Will anyone love someone who is HIV+ and lonely?

Dear reader,

What does someone who discovers they are HIV+ do when they want to find love? They may be able to meet many suitable attractive potential partners but then they have to reveal their secret before things get serious. How can such a person reveal this awful secret especially when they really like their new friend and feel themselves falling in love?

Those of us who think we are free of this curse are not faced with this dilemma but how many have tested themselves? If someone has had a sexual experience without protection with someone they knew very little about, they could already have become infected. There are sometimes some warning signs after involvement with an infected person, but not always.

Then that person could infect many others without being aware that they are themselves infected. It sometimes takes many years for an infected person to start becoming ill, by which time several others could have become infected by them. So what does someone who has had the test and been confirmed that they are HIV+ do when they find out?

Do they tell their partner if they have been cheating on them? They must if they have also been sexually involved with them as well, because they will all have to be tested too. Who else do they tell? Their friends, family, work collegues or their employer? What if they lose their job because their condition poses a health risk? Will they have to reveal their condition if applying for a new job? No, unless they will be given a medical.

What if they are not in a serious relationship but wish to be? How can they now find someone who will love them and will be willing to make love using protection at all times, risking themselves becomming infected should something go wrong? Can infected women or men still have a healthy child without the virus. Yes they can, but it is not easy and the woman will have to take some very nasty medicines for a short time during pregnancy to stop the virus infecting their yet unborn child.

As far as I can see, there are very few ways for infected people to find love after being diagnosed, yet they still have to get on with life just as we all do. So what I would like to know is how people who are now infected are coping and have they managed to find new partners, start new relationships and are their new partners + or - ? Would they like a place online where they could meet other people who share their condition or are willing to have a relationship with an infected person using protection always and being very careful to avoid accidents?

If so, please leave your comments and contact details when you put your thoughts, (keep them clean and polite), here. Also your own story of success or failure so that we could share them.

Your friend, Steve.